As a man, this is one of the more interesting questions I get to ponder. A few observations are:
Men have no clue, because mostly it makes no sense.
Men think it's a demand made by men against less powerful women.
"Blow me or you're fired!" Sure, that fits. but "You look nice today?" does not.
It's yet another one of those, if I'm uncomfortable it's harassment. Imagine a man claiming harassment because of a woman's perfume. How does that make him look? And let's face it, these laws are for women against men. Ultimately it only makes women seem weaker and less capable.
A female Affirmative Action.
OK, so here is the fly in the ointment.
Sexual Harassment is never directed at the man the woman wants to be noticed by. If the boss asks out his underling and she wants to be asked out, that's fine. If the woman does not want this attention it becomes harassment. So how is the guy to know? It's funny how often women think guys can read minds.
Scenario 1 / A woman at work gets asked out, a nice adult invitation. She does not want to seem to eager or she was caught off guard so she declines. She decides she likes this guy and hopes he asks again. Sometime later he brings it up again and she can't because of an obligation. On the third suggestion she accepts. All good.
Scenario 2 / A woman at work gets asked out, a nice adult invitation. She was caught off guard by this and does not want to date this guy so she declines. She hopes this guy doesn't ask her again. Sometime later he brings it up again and she claim she has another obligation for that evening and hopes this guy gets the message. On his third suggestion she sees no end to this and labels it harassment. All bad.
So perhaps you're thinking, the company should have a no dating policy? This would fix it. Fix it for whom? First off, it's not the companies responsibility or their Right to tell people how to live and act. Most people seem far too willing to allow Government or Business to govern their human interactions. FUCK THEM! We end up with all this bullshit because the woman in Scenario 2 doesn't just say she's not interested in dating this guy. She's just trying to be nice you say? So this guy gets fired because she's trying to be nice? She's weak and her friends should have told her how to say No to the guy in a nice but clear way. Her friends don't realize their actions are limiting their own opportunities.
How often do women ask, "How does my ass look in this?" How often do they wear form fitting clothes to show off their breasts and their backside. They want attention, but only from a short list of friends and co workers. And if those on the list make a positive comment it's great. But those off the list better not be looking at them? How do you expect to get it both ways. Well logically you don't. That's why most harassment allegations are baseless.
What follows is a real world experience that I witnessed.
I worked at the San Francisco Headquarters of the Gap for many years. I worked closely with the IT Department. One morning the IT employees came to work and found that they were charged with Sexual Harassment. A female worker from another department was offended by a poster that was hanging on a wall in the IT Department. All the employees it that office were giving written warnings and a letter went into each of their files describing the incident. What did not go in their file was a picture of the offending poster. The poster was a Gap Ad, that had been in the newspaper and was also hanging in the Ladies Undergarment Department. It was a beautiful young girl wearing Gap under clothing and showed no more skin than a bathing suit. But because one person was offended now all the people in the Department were criticised. Two of the people were women. This is political correctness and sensitivity training gone insane. Or do you agree? I'd love to hear a thoughtful explanation as to why this was necessary.
So what is SEXUAL Harassment?
A person makes rude or cruel or demeaning sexual comments more that twice to a co-worker. And twice he is told to stop. That's harassment.
This would include a woman calling a man a "pussy," more than once. And being told to stop.
A man demands sex from a woman for her continued employment or advancement.
Below is also harassment that is never prosecuted or even talked about.
A woman offer sex to a man for employment or advancement.
Seems harassment only goes one way.
Discomfort is not harassment. Grow up Ladies, you claim to be equal, start acting like it.
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